Showing posts with label understanding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label understanding. Show all posts

Friday, June 19, 2026

Happy Juneteenth! I'm sorry I'm late.

Less than 10 years ago I first heard of Juneteenth and have been trying to learn more about it since.  Because I feel such a huge gap in my education, I can identify with this guy.

Yes, fact checkers have found this guy in Ohio, who told them,

"I hope it lets people know that it's OK

to change your opinion

when you're presented with new evidence

that clearly shows you were wrong.”


Today a Facebook friend posted these lines - and gave me permission to share.  Thank you, Ryan DjRhino Flemming. 

On this day in 1865, Union General Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas, and read General Order No. 3, announcing and enforcing the freedom of enslaved people in Texas.
While President Abraham Lincoln had issued the Emancipation Proclamation more than two years earlier on January 1, 1863, its enforcement depended upon the presence of Union troops. As Union forces advanced into formerly Confederate territory, freedom was not only proclaimed—it was secured. For many enslaved people in Texas, that moment finally arrived on June 19, 1865.
For those who had lived under the bondage of slavery, this was a day of profound joy and significance. In the years that followed, they commemorated the occasion as “Juneteenth,” and over time that celebration spread throughout the nation.
Nearly every major movement has a defining moment that comes to symbolize the larger story. Juneteenth has become such a moment in the story of slavery’s end in the United States. It represents the day when the promise that all people are created equal moved closer to becoming a reality for all Americans.
We remember Juneteenth not to celebrate the fact that slavery once existed in our nation, but to celebrate that it was brought to an end. We honor those who endured its cruelty, those who fought against it, and those who sacrificed to secure freedom for others. We also celebrate the truth that every person is created in the image of God and is therefore worthy of dignity, justice, and respect.
Happy Juneteenth!

 

Tuesday, March 17, 2020

how does that help?

"You guys!  How does that help?!?"

That’s what I want to yell when someone posts something negative or judgy or blame-y or complain-y or whatever…  

Fear is a crazy thing and fearful people do crazy things.  But condemning them or calling them names probably doesn't help.  Which I why I want to yell my question.  However, I usually restrain myself.

I do think that it is actually a fair question.  So maybe I should be asking it of myself... like whenever I open my mouth to offer my expert opinion of what should have been done differently.  Yah, how does that help?  How do my words help anybody or anything?

A wise young friend astutely observed…   Regardless of how we got here, the situation is what it is and I’m just really hoping everyone stays safe and healthy!

And he's right.  This is where we are and what we have to work with.  We don't have the option to go back and change how we got here.  We have only the choice of what to do with it.

We have to start where we are and this is where we are now. We can start asking how to make the best of it.  

  • I can learn new skills; in fact, I might need to learn new skills - like how to participate in online meetings.
  • I might even need to brush up on some old skills.
  • I can use the time to catch up on work around the house.
  • I might tackle a project I've been wanting to do. 
  • I could maybe even finish that old uncompleted one. 
  • Maybe I can bake those monster cookies.
  • I could learn how to play "Words with Friends."
  • I can read more of those books I hauled home from the library.
  • I could call that friend who has been on my mind.  I could even write her a letter!
  • I might look for creative ways to help other people.  What could I do to make the world a better place?

I may feel powerless about what is happening out there, but maybe I can pick one little spot in my own little space and turn chaos into calm.

I hope to do several of those items on my list above

I will probably need to consult the list now and then - because I tend to forget my good intentions and my great ideas.

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But I also hope to add a new habit...  
I really want to pay attention to myself and to notice when I'm about to spout off my opinion about what somebody should do. I want to learn to pause in those moments and ask myself "How does that help?" 

Saturday, July 21, 2018

I just don't understand!

I just don't understand how someone could vote for him/her...
I really don't understand why you spend money on that.
I just don't understand why you can't see things my way.
I guess we just can't communicate anymore.  
I give up!
Conversation over!

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This sounds SO familiar.
It can happen between:
- Friends
- Spouses, siblings
- Parents and offspring
- Roommates or classmates
- Friends, neighbors
- Co-workers, team members
- People from different backgrounds and upbringing
- Different personalities

Triggers might be:
- Politics
- Toothpaste tubes
- Toilet seat up or down
- Whose turn it is to take out the garbage
- Which way is the right way

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How about people from different languages or cultures?
Locals and foreigners
Expats, International student, immigrants
We might expect misunderstanding there.
Frustration, confusion, impatience, exhaustion
It would not be surprising to hear one of our students say, "I just don't understand so I think I'll quit trying."

But nope. 
That's not what I hear.
Instead I mostly hear the opposite.

"I don't understand so I guess I need to try harder."
BECAUSE I don't understand, I must put forth greater effort.

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Misunderstanding.
Of course.
I may have misunderstood...

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Humility, deference, respect
Teachability

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Might there be a lesson here for me?
Could be.

I have much to learn from my new friends who have to work very hard at understanding.  I'm grateful for their diligent example.

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Seek first to understand
before seeking to be understood.

-  Stephen Covey

Monday, March 26, 2018

Travel the Globe




Mott Community College is hosting their annual International Week with special events every day this week, 
March 26-30.  



The kick-off event on Monday morning was titled “Travel the Globe.”




Students from at least a dozen countries lined the hallway with tables displaying photos and information from their respective cultures.  




They shared stories and answered questions about their people and their history. Some of them even offered morsels of their country’s typical foods.

Although I see these students now and then at our English conversation group, this was a special time to be able to focus more on each of them individually and to learn more about their homeland.

  

Rather than simply watching news stories from these countries on the evening news, this was a chance to talk with them in person and see their pictures and hear their own stories. 






Indeed, I shed some tears with the Syrian women as we talked about the destruction of the beautiful historic buildings in Aleppo.







This event was the culmination of class assignments for the students and they did a great job.  







It was cool to see the double-sided aspect of their work. 

On the one hand they had to work hard to put together a presentation in a language not their own involving art, photography, and layout but also to practice their English speaking skills in understanding and answering a wide array of questions.



On the other hand it was an opportunity for them to celebrate their own home culture and to share it with others.



I was impressed with both aspects of their work.  
Good job, students!  
AND great job, Miss Debra!

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Every day this week holds yet more International events:

Tuesday
Clínica de migrantes” film screening: 11a.m. & 6p.m. in the Regional Technology Center room 1005
This documentary goes beyond the politicized rhetoric to show the faces of real people in the middle of the immigration debate.

Wednesday
 Lecture and discussions with Fulbright Scholar Jianjun Wang: Center for Teaching & Learning 11a.m.
Fulbright Scholar Jianjun Wang’s keynote address in the Trustee Scholar room (located next to the Event Center). The title of the discussion is: “Owen Lattimore's Mongol Journeys and Mongolian Region - US Relations”

“Prince Among Slaves” lecture, film screening, and discussion: Gorman Auditorium (room 1201) 3p.m. 

Thursday
 “China Cultural Fair”: 12– 3p.m. in the MCC Event Center
Travel throughout China and experience the culture and beauty it has to offer without leaving campus! 

Friday
 “Foreign Languages Talent Show”: 6p.m. at the Mott Memorial Building Auditorium room 1130
Over 20 student performances all in various foreign languages. Talents range from singing and dancing to instrumentals and acting.